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Stop expecting people to fix youStop expecting people to fix you



This is where you really have to dig into yourself and be honest. Do you want someone to save you? 

It’s not romantic to have someone save you from your problems or misery. If you’re unhappy or want an easy way out of your problems, a relationship is not the answer. 

You can’t expect someone to be your hero or stop the hurt from hurting. It’s dangerous to use relationships to distract yourself from your problems. In fact, this can even attract toxic partners who feed off of codependent behavior.

Live your life actively and don’t wait for someone to show up if you need help. That’s normal and healthy. Surround yourself with supportive people who can be there for you on bad days. 

If you want to save someone else, stop.  You can’t change or fix someone’s damage. When you want to rescue someone from their bad habits, you will consider them more as a project instead of someone you want to be in a relationship with. Although it is possible to fall in love with someone you want to save, this doesn’t create the best or healthiest relationships.

Trying to change someone to meet your expectations will only leave you with disappointment. Everyone has the capability to change, but through their own will and at their own pace.   Trying to force it causes resentment.

Resentment does not belong in a happy, healthy relationship.

Can’t get your ex out of your mind?Can’t get your ex out of your mind?



You can’t control when or who you meet. That’s why life works in mysterious ways. Unfortunately, that’s how timing can sometimes be off. 

Just when you think you’re ready to be in a relationship with someone, you may find someone that is still recovering from heartbreak and hung up on their ex.

Or vice versa. If you’re having a hard time recovering, apologizing or admitting when you’re wrong is a big step. While you probably won’t get back with your ex, it is a way to move forward.  

If you have a habit of thinking you’re always right and would rather hold on to your ego instead of making things right and you may want to hold off entering a relationship. 

Focus first on learning how to own up to your mistakes. Reflect as often as you can and become more self-aware about the decisions you make. Everything has a consequence and you can learn and grow from past mistakes.

You might not be ready for a relationshipYou might not be ready for a relationship



Have you been going on dates and wondering whether you should start a relationship? Or maybe you just moved because you got a new job. Since you don’t know anyone and want to build connections, you might be asking yourself Should I date and seek a relationship due to social norms? 

We may often feel pressured to date when we’re single but entering a relationship is a huge commitment. Have you been reluctant to try but not sure why?

You may not be ready for a relationship. You care more about finding the perfect partner instead of working on yourself. Are you constantly daydreaming about finding your prince, charming or Cinderella when you’re walking down the streets and see many couples holding hands? Or do you listen to love songs as you’re waiting? It’s normal to think about who your ideal soulmate is – Love is exciting. 

When you meet someone you share chemistry with, it’s exciting. But relationships always require work in order to survive, getting butterflies in your stomach, isn’t ultimate love. Sometimes Prince Charming or Cinderella will let you down, and it won’t be perfect 

– Don’t spend all your time and energy finding someone who meets every requirement on your list. Instead work on being the best version of yourself. You’re still working on your goals and discovering who you are, There’s nothing wrong with doing you.

In fact, soul searching is an incredibly moving experience. That’s when you get to reflect, form connections with great people and do more of what makes you happy.