This is where you really have to dig into yourself and be honest. Do you want someone to save you?
It’s not romantic to have someone save you from your problems or misery. If you’re unhappy or want an easy way out of your problems, a relationship is not the answer.
You can’t expect someone to be your hero or stop the hurt from hurting. It’s dangerous to use relationships to distract yourself from your problems. In fact, this can even attract toxic partners who feed off of codependent behavior.
Live your life actively and don’t wait for someone to show up if you need help. That’s normal and healthy. Surround yourself with supportive people who can be there for you on bad days.
If you want to save someone else, stop. You can’t change or fix someone’s damage. When you want to rescue someone from their bad habits, you will consider them more as a project instead of someone you want to be in a relationship with. Although it is possible to fall in love with someone you want to save, this doesn’t create the best or healthiest relationships.
Trying to change someone to meet your expectations will only leave you with disappointment. Everyone has the capability to change, but through their own will and at their own pace. Trying to force it causes resentment.
Resentment does not belong in a happy, healthy relationship.